Your point is that there can be no fairness if people allow their whims to influence their decisions. Do I see that correctly? I don't dispute that.
So that in some cases something turns out in people's favour and in others to their disadvantage, which may have nothing to do with the matter in and of itself.
We can cut our teeth on this topic. For now, what counts is how you and I make our own decisions and how we talk to each other.