Loving the Wounded Parts of Our Children

in happiness •  4 years ago 

It is a good thing if we can bring some happiness to those who are in pain, whether it's from another person or ourselves. Sometimes, even if we know that we shouldn't, we get a little carried away and indulge our emotions. Whether it's a loved one or a friend, when we love the wounded parts of ourselves, it brings us joy.


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There are times, in the course of our daily lives, that we have to put ourselves in vulnerable situations. We may be trying to get through an argument with a loved one, trying to make up after a breakup, or just trying to get through life. At these times, we're not thinking straight, and there's probably a part of us that feels like hurting people is a great way to feel better about what's happening in our lives. We don't realize, though, that this kind of behavior actually damages us more than helping us. Not only do we injure others unintentionally, but when we do it repeatedly, the damage gets us.

Think about how many people you really love. If you love them, would you be willing to hurt them for them? I think not. If you love someone, you're going to have to make sure that they're not hurt by you. When you love someone, you want to make sure they don't suffer because of your actions.

It's okay to say "I'm sorry," but saying it when it's convenient is not okay. There's a difference between saying you're sorry and making things better for someone else. We should avoid hurting people if we can help it. When we hurt people, we actually hurt ourselves more. That's why it's important to let go of our anger rather than storing it up inside. If we store up anger, it will eventually manifest itself in ways that we don't want.

Instead of building resentment against those who have been hurt by us, we need to embrace the fact that they were vulnerable. When we love people, we want to make sure they're not hurt by us. If we allow ourselves to get angry with someone who has been hurt, we are not loving the wounded person, we're only resenting them. When we resist getting angry, it gives the injured person the opportunity to think about the hurtful things we've said and to choose differently the next time.

Loving the wounded part of our children is not easy. However, it is one of the most rewarding things we can do. We learn a great deal about ourselves as we nurture the people we love. As Christ taught us, it's through forgiveness that we receive favor from God. If we resist expressing love to those who are being hurt, then we won't be able to enjoy the peace of God's promise.

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Hello, nothing gives more peace than forgiveness, we must live like a rainbow for our loved ones and as you mentioned be careful not to hurt them.