The Complexity of Happiness: Understanding Pain, Resilience, and Empathy in Difficult Times.

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We may become more sympathetic and understanding of others as a result of our own suffering. Recall that the hands that deliver flowers usually come away with a lovely scent. "Being happy is a decision." Does that make sense? The anguish of rejection is being experienced by someone. A loved one passed away recently. Someone recently learned that his spouse had cheated on him. Someone's lack of resources prevents him from providing for his kids. Despite his best efforts, a person is having a difficult time finding employment. They cannot be made to "choose to be happy" and then expect "placebo magic" to make them happy. Nonetheless, you can encourage them with words of wisdom to have the fortitude, optimism, and endurance to overcome this suffering.

Happiness isn't truly a choice, in my humble view. It's something that brightens the soul and comes from within. But having a positive outlook, empathy, and a positive attitude are choices. Despite one's personal suffering, one might find bravery, comfort, and temporary relief from issues and unhappiness by being upbeat, joyful, and sympathetic toward others. In this manner, he can continue to go forward and continue to accept the situation.

I've met people who appear happy on the outside but are actually devastated on the inside, and their behavior never betrays their true feelings. Even while I greatly like them, that doesn't actually make them "happy"; rather, it gives them strength.(That doesn't imply that I don't admire someone who chooses to shout and let his suffering out; everyone has a different threshold and mode of expression.)

Additionally, we occasionally pursue hedonistic pleasures and convince ourselves that "ignorance-is-bliss." Accordingly, we are essentially looking for "comfort" in all of these ways (again using the analogy of wanting to go asleep), and when the tranquility that this comfort brings collides with the appropriate possibility and reason, happiness emerges and radiates from inside. (Once again, pleasure can arise even in the absence of all these inducements of ease and tranquility if something pleasant occurs in spite of all the negative conditions; however, there is a good probability that we will fail to notice it and become incapable of appreciating it.

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