Family matters are always very dramatic. Too many emotions come into picture. At times I feel it is good to be away from everyone, and I feel it's better that I am staying far from everyone in another Country. Too much emotions do drain me out, so I personally avoid being in that loop. Some people say, I am very cold, but then I am better that way, rather than getting dragged into dramas of life, especially ones which do not involve me directly.
I am a good listener, but when someone always gets into a habit of complaining about life to me, keeps crying their woes to me all the time, that is the time I decide to withdraw from that person completely and I always feel, that everyone has battles to fight, including myself and everyone should learn to an extent to deal with it by themselves. All the time complaining does not help.
This happened with my aunt (mom's sister) and her family. She has 2 daughters and both the cousins are very close to me, though between them they do not get along and that puts me all the more in a fix. Because at the same time if I am together with both of them then it becomes difficult for me to manage both of them. Lately the family has been having some unpleasant situations among themselves. Mother and one daughter are on one side and Father and one daughter are on the other side. I do not like to get into anyone's personal matters, even if it is my extended family. But they try to keep me involved with both sides giving me their side of the story.
I do not wish to take side of either one and I would like to be neutral, but you know how family matters are, they expect you to nod for them, and if you do not then it's another situation all together. The good part is that I am at a physical distance from them and far away, so I can draw those unsaid boundaries by keeping quiet and not encouraging much of conversations with either of them.
Life is so short and I do not understand sometimes, why do people get so attached to material things, in their family it is the same problem, fights and arguments over money matters, possessions and all of that. And I have observed that people who keep fighting over material things and money attract more negative energy into their life. They never feel settled and satisfied in life with what they have.
Not being very rude to anyone, I always keep my distance from all such people and I tell my Mom also, even though she is your sister, she should keep distance and not get involved in their matters. Let them deal with it by themselves. It's none of our business. But my Mom is a champion, she likes to know everything about the whole world and then she likes to pass on the news to me also.... :-), I blackmail her saying if she gets into anyone's personal matters then I will not come to meet her. That's the only way I can stop her from getting involved in other people's negativity.
It's a small life and relationships are precious, we live with them all our lives, so why not bloom them and be happy. What is the point in living a life full of chaos and unhappiness? Family tensions are the worst to deal with, they can drain you out like hell and you cannot even speak your heart out to them and tell them bluntly what you would otherwise do to anyone else other than family.
Best is to get cut off from all the drama and be by yourself. Right?
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Hi @nainaztengra,
I think you're right, life is too short and there are so many things to deal with It is'nt worth to focus on drama.
Family issues are difficult to manage and when It comes to the extended family is good to take some distance and let them solve their problems.
My experience tells me that they will eventually sort the situation by themselves and if you got too deeply involvrd you may get exposed somehow.
Cheers
Yes, it is best to draw your boundaries and not get involved in every matter. Own peace of mind is important first and needs to be taken care of.