The Balance Between Healthy Self

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A person's self-identity is present in many facets of their life. Finding one's own path is the goal of maturation. However, is growing a sense of significance for oneself a beneficial thing? Being self-important is the opposite of believing that in order to be decent, we should esteem other people more than ourselves. If this were the case, then all of us would be submissive beings, like ants in a colony, living in slavery to one another. People are increasingly interested in life's purpose and where each person's path leads. Finding one's authentic self is therefore an essential part of that journey. We then find ourselves wondering, How much attention can we give ourselves without becoming narcissists?

Obstacles are something we face every day. Every adversity shapes us in a unique way. When we find ourselves in a scenario like this, we are left with questions unanswered since we are the only ones who can supply the answers. The self I'm referring to is you. The person you believe you are is your ego.

When we internalize a situation, even if we have encountered it previously, the result is always different. Making advancement in life requires taking actions similar to these. To every distinct question, we offer a thorough, coherent, and unclear response. There is no definitive response since there are no absolutes. As a result, we constantly shape who we are until the day we die. That suggests that everyone has the freedom to shape who they are. We give ourselves meaning when we choose to mold ourselves in a morally upright manner. You will gain respect for your ego if you are moral and disciplined. As a result, the person who values bettering himself deserves to be respected.

There are advantages and disadvantages to self-importance. An individual can accumulate disgrace just as someone else might accumulate dignity. For example, someone who is extremely narcissistic regards themselves as the most important thing and rejects anything that goes against their sense of self. The ego is a useful tool. You may consider it to be both your current self and your future self. You stay where you are because you have too much ego at the time. If you possess the appropriate quantity, you can use it to grow larger than you were previously.

Assume you are content with who you are at this moment. You believe that most people are ignorant, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. You believe that spending time with people is unnecessary because you already know everything. You have amazing beauty and are in a great location, therefore nothing can stop you. Well, you're not correct. You are the only thing that can stop you, no matter who you are.

If you believe that you are the best version of yourself, your journey is ended. You have stopped yourself from growing. You've surrounded yourself with what you believe to be the only thing. You have deviated from yourself by building a wall and pushing everything outside. Everything that could have made you better, no matter how little or big, is no longer with you. You will not find the solution to this problem, no matter whose theory of psychology you are used to. You will never find the exact answer, but you may discover a partial truth that points you in the right direction. This is because of the way that we are special. We are the only ones who know ourselves.

To ascertain the appropriate level of importance for ourselves, we must pose certain questions to ourselves, just as we would with any other problem. A few instances include

How should I approach people—in a kind or hostile way? How much or how little do I know? How do I behave—in a good or bad way?

Asking oneself these types of questions will help you to think more broadly. Follow through on your objective, whatever it may be, and determine what has to be changed. Upon identifying the area of yourself that need modification, you can concentrate on it.

The more evident boundaries that we should not cross are readily visible to us. It is not appropriate for us to exclude people from groups just because we think they are inferior to us. Since narcissism is rude, we should avoid it. We shouldn't damage someone else's feelings just because we disagree. Rather, we ought to persist in being rational, positive, and understanding of all outside influences that we come across.

In brief In my opinion, there exists a fine boundary separating healthy self-importance from narcissism. Each of us needs to grow in a way that makes us happy and keeps us moving forward because if we stop learning, life gets boring and heavy.

My inspiration for this composition came from the way I see people talk far too much, as if their voices matter more than anyone else's. The self-awareness they claim to possess is not entirely true. Especially if your statements could be untrue, speaking louder than others keeps others from getting opportunities. Like one's own voice is, in my opinion, rude, and vulgar self-gratification is also rude, especially when it's expressed. Animals like us are impulsive beings. Individuals possess intellect. The capacity to compose oneself should be something we work to cultivate because it will benefit not only those around us but also our own identity development.

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