Cheers to the ones that are long gone

Do you have a real-life hero? If so, who would that be and why?

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Yeah, my dad is my real-life hero. Although dead and gone for years but he remains in my heart and was the best man to be a father to me than any man would have been and I am not missing words, no wonder, I found it difficult to see a father in many men that came closer yo me not because they were not good but because they are not capable of being my father and truthfully many have proved that right to me.

Was he the best husband to my mother? I guess that is left for my mother to answer but he was my hero, although he had flaws like any other human when it came to his children, he was ready to do anything just to make sure they were happy and got what they wanted even though it wasn't the best. Have seen fathers better than him when it comes to their children and I have seen fathers worse than him when it comes to their children too but I still will choose him over and over again.

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While I was about to enter my senior class, I remember taking a transition test to help determine the best class and course for me, I knew I wasn't good with science and commercial subjects because of their major subject, and I was good with any art inclined subject but my result showed I could choose between science and commercial class.

Teachers who I went to for counseling said the same thing but that faithful day, I went back home to my dad and showed him the result, I knew he wanted me to become a doctor but I knew my hate for their major subject and hospitals or drugs was as a sign I couldn't go.

I was afraid he would make me choose what I didn't want but when I showed him the result he only asked me what I wanted and I told him, then he asked me to do what my heart desired that he won't stop me but what he was after was that I made sure my results every term was among the best.

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I was happy, although he wanted me to go for science, he gave me the opportunity and privilege of choosing my future because he won't be there for me and those were his exact words. He made sure he paid teachers who would teach me extra lessons most especially in subjects I wasn't good enough with and every term what I did was made him proud

I never knew the sacrifice he did until a student told me his father pushed him to go into the science class and won't let him make a choice of his own even when the school told his father he was failing in that area. Then, and then, I was grateful for the father I had.

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I guess we will be wondering why even though he is dead and gone for eleven years, he still happens to be the best father.

Which father knows what he wants his child to become but still let's her live her dream, without one day making her feel less of herself.

Which father knows that his child is not the best in a particular area like he wished she would become but never made her feel she is too dumb and a waste of time and resources but is always ready to support her no matter what she needs to be the best and be herself too.

He allowed me to make choices girls of my age couldn't make, although he was supposed to make such choices but he trusted in me even when I did not deserve such trust considering how strong-headed I was as a kid.

He never imposed his decision or life on me, he allowed me to make choices but was always there to show me the effects of my choices whether good or bad without making me feel like the worst person on earth.

His ability to push responsibility to me even at such young age, made me the strong lady I am today even after his death. I was able to adapt to his absence and tried as much as possible not to let my family feel his absence.

He taught me how to be strong and what life is all about, in his best way and unconsciously, he never knew he had installed so much into me that I am always grateful for, and every day, I believe that no one could have been the best father other than him.

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We had little time together but those little time spent together was always beautiful, even though we most times rarely talked together, I guess it's because we had the same personality. Lols...

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My father was and is still my real-life hero 😂😢😥. Whenever I felt lonely and the world was against me, he was always by me to assure me, he was beside me, he was my hero, my world.