Imagine, That Someone Was Objectively Examining Your Life, Where Would They See The Most Growth Over The Last Year Or Two?"

in blurtlife •  4 years ago 

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Change; In Diversity


We humans, we generally evolve overtime and this is because life experiences brings lessons that eventually makes us, different, influenced, evolved and even better. Everyone started out on a clean slate with different eventualities influencing the people we have gone on to become in life. The truth is, growth is something that inadvertently happens to us but then it isn't very growth that is noticeable that of course eschews change.

Sometimes we unwittingly change and these changes are caused by the various outcome of the events that happens to us. Like I implied earlier, everyone experiences growth but the most noticeable ones are the ones that we are responsible for, some growth comes because we chose to unwittingly outsmart some life's circumstances while coming out tops.

Before we can experience growth that might determine the course of our lives, events and time are one key ingredients we must see or put in perspective. This is to say that, while we can all go from childhood, to teenage to adulthood as humans inevitably these changes wouldn't really signal growth that is unique and variably stand out.

Everybody notices physical growth that is biological but then as humans there are many aspects we eventually experience growth that helps us adapt and handle the various or diverse vicissitudes of life. This includes mentally, spiritually, psycological and otherwise. Diverse experiences is what eventually proves that we have experienced growth.


The Independent Mindset


For me, if I thoroughly observed trends, and situation and many turnout of events in my life, I myself have noticed that I have grown to cultivate an independent mindset over the years and months and someone who knows me well will see this too.

I lost my father at a very young age and from where I come from, losing and of your parents puts you in a "responsibility mode" it means you'll have to grow quicker than your peers, you'll no longer be deemed as being "young" irrespective of what your age might be.

This is because being a first born child where I come from makes you a "semi-parent" it means that in the absent of your parent you need to easily slot in to make parental decisions on belhalf of your younger ones, you need to think like an experienced adult even if originally you're not one.

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The Challenges; The Victories


Unfortunately, people who loses their parent very early in life are forced to enter this mode, its an unplesant circumstance with a negative outlook that can make or break an individual. So many people do not sucessfully grow to become better as a result of these life changing experiences, instead of them to grow, they end up capitulating.

They fail to assume that motherly or fatherly status and they make several mistakes that will eventually live with them for ever. Its never easy to lose your guardian or parent at a very early stage in life but then ever conditions that doesn't end us will eventually makes us even better.


The Growth That Happened...


Because of how disastrous losing my father and having my mother cofined to a medical condition that rendered her invalid, I inherited the responsibilities of taking care of my younger brother and dropping out of school to fend for my mother.

I can say I had to become the man I was never prepared to become, circumstance changed and even if this was very painful and unfair, over the years I have become better and refined than some of my peers who are my age now.

I can take responsibility for something and overly excute it perfectly, this include being able to stay in the spotlight and make decisions that really matters. Finacially, I have learnt how to manage resources, when you see some younger people of my age they just want to make money, smoke and have sex and this is something I can't really do because i feel I am living in their future in my current present and this has been the most noticeable growth of my life.

Originally posted on my blog here

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