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How to become good friends

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Being trustworthy Supporting your friend Making your friendship last
Becoming a good friend is not always easy, but if you take the time to build a lasting friendship, you will be rewarded for all your efforts. As the years go by, some people will be by your side, but many of them will come out of your life, and you will realize that each of your friendships is priceless. However, if you want to be a good friend, you have to be a good friend yourself, and it takes a lot of hard work and care. If you want to be a good friend, you need to build trust based friendships, be present for your friend in difficult times, and deepen your relationship to maintain it.

Stages

• Part 1 Being trustworthy
• Part 2 Supporting your friend
• Part 3 Making your friendship last

Part 1 Being Trustworthy

Keep your promises. Never make a promise that you can't, at least, don't make it a habit. If you tell your friend that you are going out together and an unexpected but legitimate event prevents you from doing so, explain the situation to him and make sure that your relationship is strong enough that Yes, strong enough to support. No one is perfect, and it is normal to not be able to keep your promise once and for all, but do not do anything that repeats itself over and over again.
If you make a serious promise, look your friend in the eye and speak softly to show that you are taking it seriously, instead of simply saying that you have to say it.

Become someone you can trust. One of the most important aspects of friendship is that your friend can trust you. No one likes cowards, and no one will like them like a friend. It is difficult to rely on someone who is not equal and trustworthy. We all know people with admirable intentions, but who leaves you at the last minute, who says, "Well, I'll do it ..." But never do that, unless you find yourself in that explanation. Recognize, do you say that it is very painful for your friends, they may stop believing you.
If you are not sure if you can do something, don't say that you should quit this job later. Will do Instead, be honest and say you don't believe you can do it.
You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people. If you watch them just for fun, you can be nothing more than a gaming partner.

Forgive yourself when you make a mistake. If you want your friends to trust you, you cannot act as if you have no faults. If you know you have made a mistake, accept it instead of denying it. Even if your friends are not happy that you made a mistake, they will be happy to see that you are strong enough to admit that nothing happened instead of pretending that nothing happened. , Or worse, someone else's fault.
You have to be sincere when you say you are sorry. Instead of reassuring your friends that you hear sincerity in your voice, reassure them that you are making fun of them.

Be honest. If you want to be a good friend and have people who trust you, you have to be honest about your feelings, what your friends are doing, and your own feelings for your friendship. If you are honest about your feelings, it will instantly open lines of communication with your friends and also want to open them up in front of you. If a friend of yours has hurt you, don't be afraid to talk to him about it, if you have something on your mind, don't be shy and open up to your friend.
There is a difference between being honest and going through the motions of hurting your friends. For example, if you think your friend is abusing alcohol, you need to start a conversation about it. But if you think your friend's new outfit has a weird look to it, you might as well keep quiet.
Be true If you want to maintain a long lasting friendship, make deep connections with people who are deeply attached to you. Invest in people you can live with. If you are not sincere enough in your behavior, your friendship will not last.

Don't use people. If any of your friends suspect you of being friends only for the purposes that benefit you, they will throw you away like an old sock. Great friendships are not built on the hope that someone's popularity or knowledge will benefit you. If you are trying to be friends with someone, just make room in a certain group, not friendship, it is opportunism, and it is possible that your engagement with that superficial person will one day or another. Appears later.
If you already have a reputation for serving others, new people you meet won't be too excited to start a friendship with you.
Friendships are exchanged. Indeed. It may seem too easy for any of your friends to take you to school every day, but make sure to do something for that friend in return.

Be loyal to your friends. If your friend shares something with you because he trusts you, keep it to yourself and don't talk to anyone else the way you would like your friend to do to you. Don't talk about your friend behind his back, and don't start spreading rumors about what he has confessed to you. Never say anything about your friend that you are not able to tell. Be loyal to your true friends and be prepared to defend them if your new friends, or people you know with difficulty, start talking behind their backs.
What makes you loyal is that you understand the importance of a long and lasting friendship. Don't get rid of it just to spend time with your boyfriend or girlfriend, or anyone else you meet.
If you already have a reputation for gossip, your friends will take notice quickly and think twice before sharing something personal with you in the future, or spend even longer. Usually you
Don't let others gossip about your friends. Looking forward to hearing your friend's version, consider comments that don't support listening and rumors like your friend. If someone says something that surprises you and doesn't seem to know what your friend is saying or doing, say something like, "I know him, and it doesn't look like that." Comes." I will go to him. L to talk about it, l to get a version of it. Until that happens, I'd be very grateful if you wouldn't tell everyone about it.

Show your respect. Good friends show mutual respect and openly help each other. If your friend has some values ​​or beliefs that do not match yours, stick to his choices and stay open for more information. If you want your friend to trust you, he or she will be relieved when he or she wants to express an opinion you can't agree with, or when they want to talk about something new. If your friend thinks that you have come up with an interesting or original idea that they already have, then your friendship will be in vain.
Sometimes your friend will say things that will upset you, make you feel restless and upset, but if you respect him, you will give him a place to express himself, and you will Do it without doing justice.
Whenever you disagree with your friend, share your disagreement with him, and try to look at things differently.

Part 2 Supporting your Friend

Be selfless Even if you can't be pious all the time, if you want to be a good friend, you have to be pious. Whenever possible you should have your friend respond positively, if he or she does the same. Show him your kindness by showing him your love, and your friendship will be stronger. If you build a reputation for being selfish or someone who misses your friends when they need help, people will know that you are not interested in them.

Provide services to your friend with pure kindness, without expecting anything in return.
There is a difference between being generous at the right time and having people step on you. If you think you're just helping your friends without getting anything in return, that's a problem.
Do not abuse your generosity or surround yourself. When your friend does something good for you, return the favor as soon as possible. Give him back the money he gave you without any delay. Go home when the time is right.

Listen to her Do not discuss the conversation around your person and take the time to fully understand and encourage your friend when talking. It sounds simple, but make sure you listen to what you have to say about yourself. Your friend gets nothing out of this relationship if you wrap up every argument around your emotions. Listening to each other well opens up a space between you and reminds your friend that you care.
If you wait until your friend has finished speaking, you will immediately realize it.
Try to find a balance to talk to your friend half the time. Although some people are more shy than others, if your friend realizes that he can't keep up with you when you talk to him, you will have trouble making the whole friendship.

If your friends have a problem with something, help them. If you really want to support them, you need to help them when you are having a bad time. If you think your friend has a problem that he can't control, for example if he is taking drugs, flirting too much or drinking too much in the evening, you can tell him Will help you out if you can talk to him honestly.
Don't assume that your friend can be found on his own, this may be the time when he needs to hear the voice of intellect speaking through you. If you see a problem, talk about it, even if you don't feel comfortable.
Tell your friend that you can give him your shoulder to cry in the most difficult times. If your friend feels lonely, it will be easier for him to deal with his problems.
If all your friends want to chat is fine first, but you should also help your friend find a practical solution to his or her problems.
For example, if your friend confesses to eating disorder and just tells you that he will eat more, you must tell him that he needs to take more serious steps to solve his problem, e.g. By meeting with a psychologist.

Be present in times of crisis. If your friend has to go to the hospital, pay to see him. If her dog runs away, help her find it. If you need someone to pick it up, answer it. If he is absent, take notes going to your friend. If you live far away from each other send her a card or a small gift. If there is any death in his family, go to the funeral. Show your friend that he can always trust you.
Just be careful that your friend does not find himself in the middle of problems all the time, whether he is forced or not. You have to answer for help in difficult times, however, it cannot be the basis of friendship.
If you want to help your friend in a crisis, you have to give emotional support. Take good care of your friend so that he can open his heart and talk about it. Give him a handkerchief and listen. If you do not find what you are looking for then just ask.
If your friend is going through a crisis, don't tell him "everything will work" if you know it's not. Sometimes it's hard not to say, but you can do more harm than good by giving it the wrong hope. Instead, let him know that you are for him. Be honest while being encouraging and optimistic.
If your friend starts talking to you about suicidal tendencies, talk to someone about it. This rule rejects the principle of "privacy" because even if your friend begs you not to talk to anyone about it, you should still do it. Advise her to call a toll free number or a professional. Talk to your parents and your friend's parents or spouse (unless they have a problem) before talking to anyone else.

Give wise advice. If you want to be a good friend, you need to be able to evaluate your friend's situation by considering what he or she is saying and without insisting that he or she give your opinion that your friend does exactly that. What you ask him to do. . Don't judge him, give him your opinion when he asks you.
If they don't ask you, refrain from giving your opinion. When he needs it, let him go and be ready to give his opinion, if it is clear that he has asked for it. Always ask him out well if he is no longer absorbed in the connection.
In certain situations, a friend may become a little more mature in order to avoid putting himself in a dangerous situation. Be careful, you don't want to lecture or overwhelm your friend. Tell him how you view the situation using facts, and tell him what you would do if you were in the same situation.

Give it some space when it needs it. You will do your best to help your friend understand that there may be times when he does not want to spend time with you. Learn to take it back and let it air. Understand when your friend needs to be alone and spend time with others. You should not be too sticky or demanding. If you stick to it and contact him every two seconds when you're not together, you look like a friend, and he doesn't like it much.
Don't be jealous if your friend has a bunch of other friends. Every relationship is special and different, it does not mean that your friend does not love you.
Together with other friends you will give space where you need. It will also allow you to repeat with new things and you will be able to say. You will also enjoy more moments spent together.

Part 3 Making your Friendship Last

Learn to forgive. If you want your friendship to last, you must be able to forgive your friend and move on. If you want it and you allow your bitterness and resentment to accumulate, you will not be able to move forward. Know that no one is perfect and, if your friend is heartbroken and admits that he has done something wrong then you should give up.

If your friend has done something you can't really forgive him, it is better to move on to something other than trying to save your friendship when it has failed. But this type of situation should not happen too often.
If you are angry with your friend but have not told him why, if you do not talk about it together you will never forgive him.

Accept your friend for this. If you want your friendship to flourish, you should not try to change your friend or let him see the world from your point of view. You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people.
The more time you spend together, the less image you have of each other and the more you really accept each other. It is a recipe for true friendship, loving one another while knowing that the other is full of flaws.

Do more than you need to. A friend will be waiting for you when you do your homework. A good friend will spend the night helping you. Remember, if you are good friends, people will want to be good friends with you. Recognize the times when you need to work harder for your friend, these are the times that will enhance your friendship, and your friend will do the same for you in return.
If your friend has the truth you need and keep telling: no, you don't have to ..., learn to read between the lines and see when your friend really needs you.

Nothing Stay in touch. As the years go by, people develop on their own. Maybe you and your friend will go to different cities and you will only see each other for a while. Sometimes years can be without contact. There was a reason for your friendship in the past, and you may guess that the same link is still attached to you today.
Don't let distant ones decide to strengthen your relationship. If your relationship is important to you, you should continue to evolve it even if an ocean separates from you.
If you split from Jet League, talk to your friend on the phone or Skype once a month. If you make it a habit to stay in touch with your friends, your relationship will continue to grow.

Don't be afraid that your relationship will develop. If you want to be good friends, you have to understand that your relationship will not be the same in high school, college and then in your adult life. Of course, when you were fourteen years old, you spent all your time with your best friend, but over time, you have studied at different universities or you are in a serious relationship, less with you. It's natural to spend time. Talk. This does not mean that your friendship is not strong, it just means that your life develops and your friendship changes over the years.
Don't try to try like your friendship was like 10 years ago. Think of it as something flexible, not rigid.
If your friend is married to two children or just engaged in a serious relationship and you are heartbroken, respect the situation and agree that even if your friend is worried about you , May not be available 24 hours a day. As before
Appreciate the change your friend has seen over the years, and learn about evolution as well as your relationship.

Don't try to look like your friend, their differences are what bring the best friend together. What's more, he may upset her and she may no longer trust you. Show your differences and be proud of them!
You don't have to spend a lot of time or a lot of money to be a good friend. The best gifts are usually the ones you make yourself and come from the heart. A phone call can be as valuable as a personal visit.
Enjoy the time spent together. Friendship doesn't mean complaining all the time and crying for your lost loved ones, or at least it shouldn't. Make sure you have fun together and do some last minute activities from time to time. Be a positive force in your friend's life.
Don't set too many expectations and make too many rules. Allow your relationship to be free naturally.
Talking honestly is the basis of friendship. If you and your friend can't talk openly with you, you are definitely in a difficult and hopeless relationship.
If your friend makes a promise to you and doesn't keep it, don't do it or you will end up in an endless loop.
Tell your friend how much you appreciate his company and how he treats you when you need him.
No one likes to be insulted by a friend, so be careful when teasing! If your friend asks you to stop, do it now.
If your friend starts making new friends, don't be jealous. No one likes to count a proud friend among their friends. Trust your relationship.
If your friend is not treating you well while you are treating him well, you have no reason to be with him. Don't be close to someone who is not treating you well.
When you're spending time with a friend, sharing a meal, or just going out, you should both turn off your cell phone. It's really annoying to talk to someone who is constantly interfering with ringtones. He may think that you are not paying attention to him or that he does not value the time you spend together.
If you know you can't trust them, don't share how you feel about them, because they can use one of these days against you.
Never expect friendship from life. Understand that if this relationship is to be special, it happens over time.
Don't talk about things that could hurt your friend. No one likes to be with someone who is restless. For example, if a member of your friend's family has just passed away, do not discuss the subject of death. Please note that you can ask to share your feelings about this death. Maybe he wants help in this difficult time. You should not ignore it.