In life, individual pattern differs from so many personalities while Methods of living also differ from nation to nation. Some persons start from the first day of resumption to read and make the final exam successful and worth lots of credible merits while others wait to read a day before the exam, cramming what took almost 14weeks to teach into the head within some hours. In both ways, it works but which way is the best? That's the question.
New York Best selling author T.D JAKES explained relationship as ..."dating for dummies". He hesitate to say that "there's nothing dumb about wanting to know another person thouroughly as possible before entrusting all of your life to them". Thus, if you would imagine your decision to make a lifelong commitment to that special someone as your final exam-the ultimate test as far as relationship go, I will strictly advice you to follow these 20 guides.... All the 20 guides are just 20 questions you must ask yourself and your special person specifically. Regarding to there answers,there's no one way to answer but there are thing to weigh them.....
The first question there is "WHAT DO YOU EXPECT"
Hahaha, let me laugh at one of the most critical question if not the toughest. In relationships, expectations reveals themselves overtime. I think it's one basic thing you and your beloved should focus to converse candidly. Yes, adjusting expectations help control and limit disappointments. Often times, our expectations comes from our previous experiences with our ex's and partners. What we do or do not want to see, duplicated from our relationship with others Who Influenced us. There's a very big difference between 'who we are and how we present ourself'. This is between our ideal self and our real self. How you present yourself (your ideal self) and your partner can create expectations that can hinder your relationship when the masks are off.The number one cankerworm and killer of relationship is not even communication or money... It's expectations. It's only when we expect our relationship to go a certain way and they veer from our trajectory do we end up being offended by other person.
Let's way our possible answers
Having asked yourselves some questions and gotten numerous answers,it maybe wise to minimize your own expectations or at least adjust them to a realistic framework:to expect nothing more than you are willing to give.Someone said that expectations are nothing more than future resentments. Avoid those resentments by allowing the other person to give freely. You Rob the individual of blessings you from their heart when you have unhealthy expectations. It may require several conversations,but be blunt and ask the other person what they expect from a relationship with you. And tell them in kind, what you expect. Open up the front door of communication in the house of love you hope to build together.