To avoid getting into this miserable funk, let’s take a look at 6 Habits of Miserable people so you can avoid making them.
They Feed the Unhappiness:
Misery likes company, so anything that affirms what a miserable and terrible place the world is will attract them. From Newsfeeds to news media, they will find negative opinions that prove their view that being miserable is the only practical outcome.
Instead of focusing on the 30 people who were saved from a sinking ship, they will focus on the one person who was bitten by a shark and use it to prove the fact that they were always right, the ocean isn’t safe and should be avoided.They Are Never Fully Satisfied:
They complain a lot! Going on holiday or to a meal with a miserable person is the worst. The meal is never the right temperature, and the room is never in the right position. They land a dream job, and there are still complaints. When they get a raise, they still don’t have enough money. In the end it just becomes tiring, and friendships fade because they are just too painful to be around.They Aren’t Grateful:
Even when fortune falls on the miserable person, they won’t be thankful. They will find a way to either explain how deserved the lucky break was, or alternatively turn it into a negative. When they get a new car and you congratulate them, the miserable person will then focus on how much maintenance and parking is costing them. They can turn any happy occasion into another downward spiral of negativity.They Are Stingy:
Miserable people don’t do things out of generosity, they do things out of personal gain. A “what’s in it for me” mentality if you will. Sadly, if you’re so busy looking after your own needs, you will never find true happiness. It is well documented that generosity and happiness are linked.
Guru Shantideva summarizes it well: “All the happiness in the world stems from wanting others to be happy, and all the suffering in the world stems from wanting the self to be happy.”They Compare Themselves to Others:
One sure fire way to misery is comparing yourself. You will never keep with the Joneses, and even if you do, there is no golden pot of happiness at the end of the rainbow. They are also often happy in the misfortunes of others and if they suffer a set back they feel its unfair if everyone doesn’t too.
Miserable people never feel grounded in their own achievements because they compare their success to everyone else, and that isn’t a stable foundation to measure from. The bottom line, you won’t find happiness in the company of jealousy and envy.They Worry about Everything:
Miserable people worry about things they can’t control. Worry is a comfortable place to swell for miserable people because it fans their fears and gives them something to hang onto in an often empty life. Worry is often unreasonable but miserable people aren’t able to listen to reason because this habit of worry has become part of their nature and they aren’t willing to change it.
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