A friend of mine got tired of her FIANCE just about after six months they started they relationship. He complained bitterly to me about her and told me that he has concluded to break up with her...
I did not respond immediately because I knew I must tell him the right thing, so I went home. And that is what birth this message.
Many MEN have broken up with their WIVES because they end up not being the WIFE that they have dreamt of. But they have forgotten that on their wedding day was when the man was commissioned for the new task.
Nobody calls the woman WIFE on her wedding day but BRIDE, because it is the man that will GROOM his BRIDE to become the WIFE. That is why the man is called βBRIDEGROOM or GROOMβ and the word grooming has to do with PATIENTLY NURTURING, TEACHING, TENDING and HELPING someone to become what he or she should be.
It is therefore believed that a MAN that takes a WOMAN to the ALTAR of MARRIAGE is matured enough to patiently GROOM his BRIDE to become the WIFE they way he wanted her to be...
...The fact that the woman does not know what is on your mind except you teach her.
So before you think of breaking up, have you groomed her?, Have you given her TIME to understand you?, Hope you realize that a turtle will never become a hawk? God often brings People that are opposites of each other together in MARRIAGE so that they can HELP EACH OTHER in their place of weaknesses...
The problem with many of us is that we donβt accept People before attempting to change them..
Stop trying to change her, ACCEPT her, LOVE her, TEACH her and be PATIENT with her; that is what grooming is all about. She is going to be your WIFE but she is your BRIDE now, so GROOM her to be the woman of your expectations.
*this applicable to fiance.
I donβt believe that your RELATIONSHIP canβt work, just be PATIENT and allow GOD to HELP you.
I find this actually offensive and old fashioned, the fact that a man has to 'groom' a woman to fit what HE wants. What about what the woman wants? What about the fact that she should be perfect just as she is, and shouldn't change for anyone? Your post also contradicts itself - you say 'stop trying to change her' and then 'teach her' so you can 'groom her' to be what YOU want.
Sure, relationships need patience, I agree with that!
Always try to understand that women are weaker vessels that's the reason why we have to be gentle with them.
I hope u understand what am trying to say.
No I don't, as I don't believe woman are weaker than men. They are strong in many ways.