Si no fías, te puedes convertir en el mal vecino del barrio y hasta en la "oveja negra" de la familia que te caen en montonera cuando se enteran que tienes un negocio, esto lo digo por un pariente que tiene una tiendita en un sector conocido del país y ayer que hablé con él por teléfono, me contó que su local está a punto de quebrar.

Antes de emigrar yo conocí ese sitio y si alguna vez mis hijos o yo consumimos algo de las perchas, siempre le pagué lo que era justo, sin embargo, no ha pasado así con la familia de su esposa, ya que todos han abusado de él pensando que porque es familia tiene que solucionar todos los problemas de provisión alimentaria, ya que, incluso sin siquiera pedir, se llevan las cosas sin pagar.

Pienso que fiar en una tiendita de barrio es un arma de doble filo porque en un principio parece lo más natural: los clientes son los vecinos, aquellos que ves pasar cada día y con quienes compartes más que un simple intercambio de monedas, sin embargo, cuando te decides a fiar, estás abriendo una puerta que, en muchos casos, cuesta cerrar porque al principio, todo va bien, la gente promete que pagará en unos días o la quincena siguiente, pero los días se convierten en semanas, las semanas en meses, y las deudas, en historias de excusas y silencios incómodos cuando te ven venir.

De pronto, ser amable y confiar en los demás se convierte en un problema, pasa de ser un gesto de apoyo al barrio a un juego de evasión: te cuesta más cobrar que vender. Empiezas a ser el "mala onda", el "mezquino" el "tacaño", o hasta el que obtuvo su negocio con dinero sucio", solo porque pides lo justo, lo que es tuyo. Algunos vecinos dejan de saludarte y otros incluso te critican, diciendo que no entiendes la solidaridad o que solo piensas en el dinero, pero nadie se pone en tus zapatos, es que ni piensan en el esfuerzo que implica mantener la tienda abierta cada día, en el dinero que tú también debes invertir para abastecer los estantes o perchas, en las cuentas que llegan puntuales y que a ti nadie te perdona...

Eso es lo que pasa ahora con la familia política de mi pariente, igualito, es un abuso descarado. Mi pariente tiene un día específico que reparte algunas a personas que están en la indigencia, en la mendicidad, que viven en las calles, y más si son escuincles. No da de lo que le sobra, sino de los productos que en menos de un mes ya están para caducar y sabe que esas personas necesitadas lo podrán consumir ese mismo día porque no tienen ni una nevera en donde colocarlo. Si algo se le caduca, ni lo vende cambiándole la fecha para alterar el día de caducidad, ni tampoco lo reparte entre los necesitados.

Él es un buen hombre, de sentimientos sinceros, pero está a punto de cerrar por dejarse llevar por el "qué dirán", por vivir en la supuesta paz con sus familiares políticos para que su esposa no se sienta mal, y eso ni lo beneficia a él, ni a su esposa, ni a sus hijos, y tampoco a los necesitados que en verdad lo requieren. Su familia política no vive en la indigencia, tienen sus casas, sus negocios de telefonía y accesorios, pero van a saquear el local de mi pariente con el lema de que "somos familia", pero él ni siquiera les ha pedido a crédito una bolsa o una mica para el celular de sus hijos, y sé que ellos tampoco fiarán a sus clientes.

Fiar genera una especie de deuda emocional que se te devuelve en formas inesperadas, terminas sintiéndote responsable de las necesidades ajenas, y eso es peligroso, porque no es tu rol. Con los años aprendí que no puedes cargar con las dificultades de los demás sin descuidar tus propias necesidades. Decir "no fío" puede ser la decisión que más tranquilidad te traiga, no se trata de egoísmo, es justicia para ti, para el esfuerzo que haces día a día. Claro, habrá quienes no lo entiendan y quienes hasta se molesten, pero no puedes vivir de hacer felices a otros cuando eso implica tu propio sacrificio.

La tiendita no es una fundación de beneficencia, aunque parezca crudo decirlo. Es el medio de vida, y si no eres firme, te hundes en un mar de deudas ajenas y se va rompiendo la confianza en ambas direcciones. A veces me pregunto si eso es lo que las personas que no pagan llegan a entender; si alguna vez piensan que, al final, la falta de pago y el abuso en las deudas lo que hacen es romper la cercanía y la relación de respeto. No cobrar lo que es justo no ayuda a la comunidad, solo desgasta a quienes intentan ofrecer un servicio para todos.

Ya los leo después.

Chau.

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ENGLISH VERSION:

How's it going, Blurt folks?

I am telling you the gossip that you are surely coming to read in my meditation cave:

I don't know if in your countries it was or is common to hear the phrases (or similar ones): "I am your friend, but I don't give you credit," or the well-known: "I don't give credit today, but tomorrow I will," referring to the fact that the owner of a grocery store does not give credit to any product that he has for sale in his business, but rather it is paid for at that moment, generally in cash or debit card (which I have seen in some places that also accept the payment method like that). There are even videos that advise not to give credit so as not to see your business go bankrupt.

If you don't trust, you can become the bad neighbor in the neighborhood and even the "black sheep" of the family that they attack you when they find out that you have a business. I say this because of a relative who has a small shop in a well-known part of the country and yesterday when I spoke to him on the phone, he told me that his shop is about to go bankrupt.

Before emigrating, I knew that place and if my children or I ever consumed something from the hangers, I always paid him what was fair, however, this has not happened with his wife's family, since they have all abused him thinking that because he is family he has to solve all the problems of food supply, since, even without even asking, they take things without paying.

I think that giving credit to a local store is a double-edged sword because at first it seems like the most natural thing: the clients are the neighbors, those you see passing by every day and with whom you share more than just exchanging coins. However, when you decide to give credit, you are opening a door that, in many cases, is hard to close because at first, everything goes well, people promise they will pay in a few days or the next two weeks, but the days turn into weeks, the weeks into months, and the debts into stories of excuses and uncomfortable silences when they see you coming.

Suddenly, being kind and trusting others becomes a problem. It goes from being a gesture of support for the neighborhood to a game of evasion: it costs you more to collect than to sell. You start to be the "bad guy", the "stingy" one, or even the one who got his business with dirty money", just because you ask for what is fair, what is yours. Some neighbors stop greeting you and others even criticize you, saying that you do not understand solidarity or that you only think about money, but nobody puts themselves in your shoes, they don't even think about the effort that it takes to keep the store open every day, the money that you also have to invest to stock the shelves or hangers, the bills that arrive punctually and that nobody forgives you...

That is what happens now with my relative's in-laws, just the same, it is blatant abuse. My relative has a specific day that he gives some to people who are homeless, begging, who live on the streets, and even more so if they are kids. He does not give what he has left over, but rather the products that in less than a month are about to expire and he knows that those needy people will be able to consume it that same day because they do not have any. nor a refrigerator to put it in. If something expires, he doesn't sell it by changing the expiration date, nor does he distribute it to the needy.

He is a good man, with sincere feelings, but he is about to close down because he is carried away by "what will people say", by living in supposed peace with his in-laws so that his wife doesn't feel bad, and that neither benefits him, nor his wife, nor his children, nor those in need who really need it. His in-laws don't live in poverty, they have their houses, their telephone and accessories businesses, but they are going to loot my relative's shop with the motto that "we are family", but he hasn't even asked them for a bag or a cell phone case for his children on credit, and I know that they won't give their clients credit either.

Trusting creates a kind of emotional debt that is returned to you in unexpected ways. You end up feeling responsible for other people's needs, and that is dangerous, because it is not your role. Over the years I learned that you cannot bear the difficulties of others without neglecting your own needs. Saying "I don't trust" can be the decision that brings you the most peace of mind. It is not about selfishness, it is justice for you, for the effort you make every day. Of course, there will be those who do not understand it and who even get upset, but you cannot live off making others happy when it implies your own sacrifice.

The store is not a charity foundation, although it may seem harsh to say so. It is the means of livelihood, and if you are not firm, you sink into a sea of ​​other people's debts and trust is broken in both directions. Sometimes I wonder if that is what people who do not pay come to understand; If you ever think that, in the end, non-payment and debt abuse only break the closeness and the relationship of respect. Not charging what is fair does not help the community, it only wears down those who try to offer a service for everyone.
I'll read them later.

Bye.

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