The roots of low self-esteem

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This past week, I took some time to reflect on the various contexts in which low self-esteem might arise, the ways in which an individual's past experiences and connections with others have influenced their viewpoint, and the ways in which other outside influences play a role. The following information outlines the causes of low self-esteem as well as the symptoms that these emotions can cause:

👉 Feeling Rejected
I've seen individuals who work hard all their lives and yet receive little appreciation for it. They are constantly informed that their life, career, or body are insufficient. How can these individuals develop a positive self-image as adults? It is hard to feel secure and at ease in your own skin later on if you were criticized regardless of what you did or how hard you tried. The guilt you experience for always "failing" can be excruciatingly agonizing.

👉 Trauma
The most obvious and conspicuous reasons of poor self-esteem could be emotional, physical, or sexual assault. Being pushed against your will into any situation can cause you to lose faith in others, despise the world, and your own self-worth, all of which have a negative effect on your self-esteem. It goes without saying that there is a lot going on in these situations at once that you may need to consider, separate out, or avoid.

It could make you feel unworthy. You may have convinced yourself in your mind that you were involved or even at fault in an attempt to take control of your situation. You might, among a million other emotions, regard yourself as disgusting and blatantly shameful since you have discovered unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with the abuse and the disarray.

👉 Parent Not Involved or Preoccupied
You feel neglected, forgotten, and irrelevant if your parents, guardians, or other key caregivers didn't value the things you do. It can be challenging to inspire yourself to desire more, aspire for more, and believe that you deserve more. You get this sense that you are unaccountable to anyone or that no one cares where you are because of your parents' disregard, but those are really leftover feelings from your childhood. It's possible to feel unknowledgeable and come to feel that you should apologize for being here.

👉 Conflicting Authority Figures
When parents quarrel or hurt each other's feelings, they unintentionally set a horrible example for their kids, who then pick up on these negative emotions and distrusting traits. This causes moments of terror, overwhelm, and disarray. This can also happen when one parent is really upset or behaves erratically in front of the youngster. It can seem as though you were a part of the unpleasant situation your parents were in or that the battles between authority figures were your fault when you were exposed to excessive confrontations between them. It is possible to carry this sense of being "tainted" into adulthood.

Bullying when parents don't support the child
After being teased and harassed, you could have had a greater chance of healing and preserving your self-esteem if you had the support of a generally safe, attentive, and aware family. If the agony was unbearable outside of your home and you already felt unsafe there, you lived a life where you were constantly overwhelmed with feelings of hopelessness, loss, and self-loathing.
You can also believe that everyone in your life is a predator and should not be trusted. Bullying may have a devastating impact on quality of life and be more severe when there is no parental support.

Belief systems, culture, the media, and scholastic difficulties without parental support could all be additional factors contributing to poor self-esteem.

Undoubtedly, all of these factors contribute to low self-esteem in our life. It is crucial to realize, though, that being in any of these roles does not obligate you to stay in them as an adult. There are various methods to feel more prepared, less broken, and more self-assured as you move forward, but they will ingrain themselves into your mind and senses in different ways.

When you look back on your past as an adult, you may find that the ridicule or strong negative messages you experienced weren't always intended for you. Instead, they resulted from the situations of those who gave them. You can lessen the impact of the unfavorable messages you have been given and have constructed about yourself by adopting that viewpoint. Furthermore, you may feel less alone and ashamed of your experience if you realize that you are not alone in it.