Don't try to Please Others

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If there’s any attitude that thought me lesson as a kid and an adult is trying to please people. Being a people pleaser is absolutely good, it shows you value and cherish your relationship with people and want to grow social connection. It shows how joyful you feel seeing others
smile and feel happy.

Being able to ignore your emotional needs to attend to another is a selfless act and it’s good to be good. If you have been seriously in need and the people you once helped totally ignores you , you will realize that it’s stupid to displease yourself to please humans that don’t give a fuck.
It’s only low self esteem and seeking peoples validation that’s making you displease yourself.

The core cause of being a people pleaser is low self esteem, low self esteem affects people emotionally and mentally, it should be dealt with at all cause, if you feel like helping people selflessly will make you important to them is a joke. An individual that have low self esteem just have less or no awareness of their worth.
Growing up I realized that people will love you for who you are , no matter go you displease yourself, it won’t change anything. Learn to love and prioritize yourself before other people.

Pleasing people who reciprocate this action when needed is way different and understanding, pleasing a friend or spouse is absolutely perfect, but pleasing someone who doesn’t rate you is a crime.

I believe people who seek for peoples validation by displeasing themselves doesn’t have healthy childhood experience, it’s either they weren’t loved appropriately, neglected or lack affection.
They weren’t educated about their self worth to humanity and man kind.
They feel pleasing people is the only way to earn love or care.

We also have other people that please others because of what they feel this people will think of them poorly , they feel it’s a perfect way to avoid chaos and appease other people.

My candid advice to people battling with this habit is learn to set boundaries , because people will use badly, help when you are convinced to do so, practice self affirmation if you are also battling with your self esteem and think critically before making that decision of helping.

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