Hay muchas formas de perder la libertad y no necesariamente es cometer un delito e ir a la cárcel. Existen formas muy cruentas de perder nuestro derecho a la libertad y es vivir con una persona controladora que te restrinja todo.
Debemos vigilar muy bien la persona que escogemos para vivir juntos, si desde el principio se muestra controladora, no es recomendable unirse a ella.
Por experiencia propia y de muchas amistades puedo decir que se pasa realmente mal y luego de vivir con esa persona es muy difícil salir de ese tipo de relación, pues psicológicamente nos mina de una manera que nos debilita y no podemos ver nunca una salida, si esa situación persiste por muchos años posiblemente la persona afectada termine con muchos padecimientos de salud a consecuencia del estrés que le somete su pareja, la depresión que le ocasiona el cohibirla de salir, hablar con amigos y familiares.
There are many ways to lose our freedom and it is not necessarily to commit a crime and go to jail. There are very cruel ways to lose our right to freedom and that is to live with a controlling person who restricts everything.
We must watch very well the person we choose to live together, if from the beginning is controlling, it is not advisable to join her.
From my own experience and that of many friends I can say that it is really bad and after living with that person it is very difficult to get out of that kind of relationship, because psychologically it undermines us in a way that weakens us and we can never see a way out, if that situation persists for many years possibly the affected person ends up with many health problems as a result of the stress that his partner puts on him, the depression caused by inhibiting him to go out, talk to friends and family.
Una pareja que te controla da señales desde un principio siempre, la forma de percatarse de ello y encender las alarmas es cuando esta comienza a exigirte que no uses tu teléfono, no uses tus redes, que dejes de tratar amistades incluso familia, la intención de esta persona Narcisa es aislarte de todo lo que te hace feliz, mientras tú te vas volviendo infeliz y depresivo ¿Vale la pena realmente esta persona? Perder tu libertad de elegir, tu libre albedrío, tu capacidad de sociabilizar y compartir con tus demás seres queridos mientras que esa persona solo te acapara para ti y no te hace feliz.
Cada uno en una pareja tiene derecho a una relación sana, donde cada uno tiene un espacio al que se debe respetar y se supone que cada uno respeta al otro y por ende sabe que no puede hacer nada que le lastime, libertad no es libertinaje y salir con amigas o amigos, con familia no quiere decir que perderás el control y harás actos indebidos.
Una persona que te ama no te restringe, no te exige, no te manipula y no te encierra en una cárcel prácticamente en la que ni puedes salir de tu hogar pues te amenaza con todo. Si estás en esta situación sal de allí inmediatamente, como sea y no vuelvas jamás con esa persona porque por mucho que la ames y te lo diga jamás va a cambiar su padecimiento psicológico con el control.
A partner who controls you always gives signs from the beginning, the way to realize it and turn on the alarms is when this person begins to demand that you do not use your phone, do not use your networks, stop treating friendships even family, the intention of this person Narcissa is to isolate you from everything that makes you happy, while you are becoming unhappy and depressed Is it really worth this person? Losing your freedom of choice, your free will, your ability to socialize and share with your other loved ones while this person only hoards you for yourself and does not make you happy.
Each one in a couple has the right to a healthy relationship, where each one has a space that must be respected and it is assumed that each one respects the other and therefore knows that he/she can not do anything that hurts him/her, freedom is not debauchery and going out with friends or family does not mean that you will lose control and do improper acts.
A person who loves you does not restrict you, does not demand you, does not manipulate you and does not lock you in a prison where you can not even leave your home because he/she threatens you with everything. If you are in this situation get out of there immediately, no matter what, and never go back to that person because no matter how much you love him/her and how much he/she tells you so, he/she will never change his/her psychological suffering with the control.
Siempre pongo mi ejemplo por delante, porque lo que viví fue demasiado espantoso, tanto como para enfermarme, ahora me dedico a ayudar a las demás personas que pasan por mi situación en la que ofrezco palabras de fortaleza y ánimo que encuentren la luz y la felicidad que perdieron.
Yo escapé varias veces de esa relación, pero me dejó tan mal de autoestima y mentalmente que regresaba, bajo manipulaciones y excusas, hoy que tengo mi dulce libertad, mi paz, no quiero volver a ese horrendo agujero de donde salí y me quedó la experiencia grande de ver cuando alguien desde el principio te da señales que no te hará feliz en una relación y será una relación inmadura condenada a fracasar. No pierdas años de tu vida, tu juventud y tu alegría de esa manera.
Aunque si estás pasando por algo similar nunca es tarde para salir de ella, hoy por hoy respiro profundo, tengo paz, soy feliz, disfruto de mi soledad, aunque nunca estamos solos, mi familia me abraza con amor, me reconcilié con todo lo que dejé por un mal amor, disfruto de la compañía de mis amistades, llego a casa y siento la paz, armonía y es un lugar definitivamente acogedor donde vivir y estar.
Alerta cuando tu novio o pareja comience a mermar tu autoestima con palabras despectivas, cuando te pide explicaciones por todo y aun dándoselas no se siente satisfecho, cuando te aísla de tus seres queridos, cuando te prohíbe tener amigos, deberás ponerte una mano en el corazón y quererte a ti primero, por mucho que le ames, tú estás primero, invoca a tu amor propio y sal de ahí porque la libertad es lo más preciado y un derecho que tiene todo ser humano. Nuestro libre albedrío es tan importante que ni Dios se mete en ello, por lo que a un simple mortal no se debe darle poder sobre ello.
Namaste.
I always put my example first, because what I lived through was too scary, so much to make me sick, now I dedicate myself to help others who go through my situation in which I offer words of strength and encouragement to find the light and happiness they lost.
I escaped several times from that relationship, but it left me so bad in self-esteem and mentally that I returned, under manipulations and excuses, today I have my sweet freedom, my peace, I do not want to return to that horrible hole where I left and I have the great experience of seeing when someone from the beginning gives you signs that will not make you happy in a relationship and it will be an immature relationship doomed to fail. Don't waste years of your life, your youth and your joy that way.
Although if you are going through something similar it is never too late to get out of it, today I breathe deeply, I have peace, I am happy, I enjoy my solitude, although we are never alone, my family embraces me with love, I reconciled with everything I left for a bad love, I enjoy the company of my friends, I come home and I feel peace, harmony and it is definitely a cozy place to live and be.
Be alert when your boyfriend or partner begins to undermine your self-esteem with derogatory words, when he asks you for explanations for everything and even if you give them he is not satisfied, when he isolates you from your loved ones, when he forbids you to have friends, you should put a hand on your heart and love yourself first, no matter how much you love him, you come first, invoke your self-esteem and get out of there because freedom is the most precious thing and a right that every human being has. Our free will is so important that even God does not interfere with it, so a mere mortal should not be given power over it.
Namaste.
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What a wonderful post!
Toxic relationships are the absolute worst! I have been in a few abusive relationships over the years - both emotional and physical and also including my 8 year marriage.
I am not sure if a person ever fully recovers from that sort of thing, but every day is a part of a healing journey!
Thank you, it makes me happy to share my thoughts, may the universe shower you with blessings. I am happy to see you
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