If there is something I have come to discover about this life, it is the fact that people will always pissed you off. There are certain things that people will definitely do to you which will raise your anger deep within you. Some might be intentional and some might not be intentional depending on the scenario. Looking back to my life, there are a whole lot of experience I have had with people which have trigger anger within me.
Of course some of them, I was able to control my anger either by been silent or walking away. For some situations, I was not able to control my urge, instead I busted into full hot tempered. In fact there are some of them that resulted into heavy fight between us. Sharing my experience I had many years ago with my neighbour Mr Tope.
If I can still remember vividly, Mr Tope was around 43 years old. He has this loud and demanding voice that in my neighbourhood can really be dreadful and authoritatively. Something led to the other, I had encounter with him. One of the major attributes that Mr Tope was known for in our compound was the fact that he lacks patience. On numerous occasions, we have witnessed heated arguments between him and his wife because of his hot temperedness.
I can still remember that day, I was returning back from a church service after been exhausted and looking forward to rest before continuing my weekend work. I have barely laid down on my bed for around 10 minutes when I heard his Voice.
"The Issue With Many Of Us Is not Nigeria Government But We The People" Mr Tope was actually addressing everyone in the compound at that particular time due to an issue that happend.
I was so frustrated and at the same time angry. Why should he be yelling close to my room when I am just about to have a quality nap. That was not enough for him. Immediately, he turned on his huge loud Bluetooth speaker to hear his usual song. At that particular time, I was angry and stood up from my bed to address the issue.
"Mr Tope, Can't you see your music is disturbing people in this compound. Can you off the music or reduce it to the minimum volume" I vented my anger and frustration towards him. I was really angry that day. Even though I tried to control my anger because he is an elder, you can tell if you are hearing me that day that I was so angry.
"This music is not disturbing anyone and if you are not happy with my music, go and sleep in another compound". Mr Tope responded to me.
That response alone got me more angry and I actually wanted to respond in a more angry tone before I heard my mom calling my name from our flat. I swallow my response I have prepare to give him and just walked back to my flat.
Entering my room back that faithful day, I was actually meditating on that issue. Assuming I didn't control my anger, probably I will have said something very harsh to the man that even till now, might be affecting me. Words are powerful and so we must be careful what we say when we are angry because it cannot be retraced.
One of the things that I have learnt is that one can not avoid not getting angry or been tempted by situations or someone that will get you angry. But most of the time, whenever I am angry, I either learn to walk away from that scene because I know the longer I stayed there, the more it will make me to be more angry. Anger can be controlled if we put in the right structure actually.
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