I want to write about this topic today because I was approached by a friend who is having issues with the boyfriend over how responsibilities are to be shared. The guy believes that in a family, responsibilities should be shared equally, that there is nothing like a wife being a helper. His girlfriend thinks that a wife's duty should be to support the husband in certain things to lessen the burden, and not to have everything split equally.
The truth is that family responsibilities should be a discussion held between the couples before marriage. There should be an understanding of how things should work in the family.
The man has always been attributed as the breadwinner of the house. It is not wrong for him to take care of most of the family responsibilities, but this is where understanding comes to play. At the altar, the man and the woman were joined together to become one. It is right that the woman shares the responsibilities of the family with the man to lessen the burden for the man.
There are situations where the wife earns more than the man. Understanding makes it possible for the wife to contribute more to the family, neglecting the fact that the husband should contribute more or at least equally with her. The same should be the case when the husband earns more than the wife.
In a situation, where both couples earn very well, it is still right that the man as the leader of the family sets an example by taking care of most of the responsibilities while the wife supports her.
Having the bills split equally without mutual agreement can have consequences, the feeling of equality in all aspects can easily creep in, which can destroy the marriage especially when it comes to certain decision making.
This is why it is expected that a man should be ready financially and otherwise before thinking of marriage. A financially stable man doesn't wait to share responsibilities with his wife. He takes it as his duty and works towards being dedicated to it. Nevertheless, it doesn't mean that a man who is still struggling to stand on his own should not have a family. In this case, the wife should understand that the husband is still struggling and support him in whatever way she can.
I would love to invite some of my friends to hear their opinion on this.
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