The Importance of Genuine Apologies

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When we experience hurt from someone, it can weigh heavily on our spirits and pull us down into a dark hole of pain, resentment, and unforgiveness. Injuries can depress us, depending on who harmed us, especially if they come from someone close to us—whether in a corporate partnership, enduring friendship, or personal relationship. Sincerity is the first step toward healing our wounds because it is ingrained in our nature to crave it.

The main issue we have is not with the apology service per se, but rather with the behavior that gave rise to the first error. True grief and manipulation can be distinguished by a narrow line. My friends, that is manipulation if the act of wrongdoing is apologized for without a corresponding change in behavior. The adage "actions speak louder than words" is commonly used, and in this instance, it truly holds true. A skilled manipulator enjoys professing regrets profusely without actually changing or atoning for their transgressions.

These apologies are not sincere ------ These are strategies of manipulation! As soon as I think about this sentence, I start to consider all the different circumstances and situations in which it could be applicable. Have you ever had a job in an environment that appeared toxic? The abuse, the hushed tones, the rumors, all only to make you smile. I must admit that, as I release my feminine energy towards the world around me, this is something that frequently occurs in women's gatherings.I apologize, but do I really mean it? Yes, I certainly can! Can I apologize and really mean it, or at least let them know that I do? Yes, of course I can! The true question, though, is if I value our relationship enough to care enough to alter that conduct. This relates to my previous piece, "Know your value and add tax," in which I discussed how those in your life who genuinely want to be present will strive to earn a place for themselves.

An individual becomes inconsistent when there is a discrepancy between what you see and hear from them. Without consistency, trust cannot exist.
When multiple attempts at apologizing or making amends are made without any real progress being made, those acts cease to be errors and instead become habitual and at ease habits. Trust is the most difficult one to earn and one of the easiest to lose in a relationship. We can continue to approach situations with the same excuses without making any changes, but eventually those excuses become unsuitable. This leads to the idea that an apology in the absence of change is manipulative.

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